Dr. Beth Kurland reveals that pursuing new goals often feels harder than it should because our autonomic nervous system (ANS) interprets “change” as a threat—not an opportunity. Through a process called neuroception, our bodies scan for safety or danger. If the system senses danger, we get stuck in fight/flight or freeze responses. But when safety is felt throughout our body, creativity, courage, and clarity flow more easily. The article offers three nervous-system–friendly strategies:
- Reframe goals so your system says “yes” — Frame what you want (creating energy and safety), not what you wish to end.
- Set specific, manageable steps — The nervous system thrives on clarity, predictability, and momentum.
- Plan for obstacles with compassion — Expect bumps, soften self-criticisms, and soothes resistance with kind inner support.
